Comments for Modernwomaninc's Blog http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com Be the woman you are and want to be. BE you always. Sat, 17 Oct 2009 09:55:05 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Ugh! Really! by Savannah http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/10/14/ugh-really/#comment-28 Savannah Sat, 17 Oct 2009 09:55:05 +0000 http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/10/14/ugh-really/#comment-28 Awesome blog! I thought about starting my own blog too but I'm just too lazy so, I guess I<a HREF="http://community.fox8.com/_Real-Estate-Mutual-Funds/blog/998171/92757.html" rel="nofollow">'</A>ll just have to keep checking yours out<a HREF="http://www.xbox360achievements.org/forum/member.php?u=245385" rel="nofollow">.</A> LOL, Awesome blog!

I thought about starting my own blog too but I’m just too lazy so, I guess I‘ll just have to keep checking yours out.
LOL,

]]> Comment on Epiphany/moving forward by macromedia http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/06/30/epiphanymoving-forward/#comment-24 macromedia Tue, 07 Jul 2009 16:14:08 +0000 http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/06/30/epiphanymoving-forward/#comment-24 Great post! Great post!

]]> Comment on Epiphany/moving forward by modernwomaninc http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/06/30/epiphanymoving-forward/#comment-23 modernwomaninc Sun, 05 Jul 2009 14:24:26 +0000 http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/06/30/epiphanymoving-forward/#comment-23 I almost feel like it is an anthem at times. Thanks for sharing I almost feel like it is an anthem at times. Thanks for sharing

]]> Comment on Epiphany/moving forward by Beth Schoenfeldt http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/06/30/epiphanymoving-forward/#comment-22 Beth Schoenfeldt Sun, 05 Jul 2009 14:03:05 +0000 http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/06/30/epiphanymoving-forward/#comment-22 I also loved that song Heat of the Matter, I remember it meaning a lot to me at certain times of my life. I also loved that song Heat of the Matter, I remember it meaning a lot to me at certain times of my life.

]]> Comment on Change? by Ruth http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/06/08/change/#comment-19 Ruth Wed, 10 Jun 2009 17:13:38 +0000 http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/06/08/change/#comment-19 I hear your heart ache. I hate to admit but, I have never been one for change unless it was forced upon me. I have gone from being a single gal to married with two children, to a widow, to having a younger man in my life and now a grand mother of 6, one of with lives with me. I never wanted to married, but found myself pregnant at 19 and then you did get married. My first true force to change. After our first born was 3 months old, I found myself expecting yet again. I did have the support of my loving family, but they were moving back down south. I had NEVER been away from my family. A devastating change forced up on me. After our second child was born my husband decided we were moving to Oregon where his family lived. Yet again forced Change. I found myself in a beautiful state, but with no friends, family or support. My husband became abusive. I had asked a friend of my husband’s wife for help, but she didn’t want to get involved. My husband let it be known that if I were ever to leave him he would take our children and I would never find them again. I needed change! Change was desperate to me, but with no support, being young and scarred I stayed with the man. The next forced change was when we moved to a small town in Oregon for my husband’s job. Here I had begun to gather friends, some strength and independence of which he didn’t like. I’m embarrassed to say the police took my husband away one day after the neighbors heard me screaming as he sat on my chest beating my head against the floor. Like too many other woman, mothers, with my children begging me that “daddy feels band and won’t do it again” I allowed him into the home. I have to admit he wasn’t so physically abusive after that, but his emotional abuse didn’t stop. Finally making some changes for myself, I found myself working at a small gym gaining physical strength. Then taking a marshal art class, emotional strength. One evening my husband decided to smack me, and much to my surprise I hit him with a side kick. He was as shocked as I was, and demanded that I never hit him again. I demanded the same. WOW! That change was good and he never did hit me again although the emotional abuse was still there. He passing away a few years later due to a rafting accident which left me alone, bad or good it was an unexpected change. At this point I hade to make changes for myself. I left a job I loved with all my heart, but knew it would never go further. Left the small town had become comfortable with and hit the big town of Portland. I had met a much younger man, 12 years my Jr. We were off and on for years, until he moved to Portland as well. After loosing both my parents within two month of each other, I started looking at my life to that of my Mothers. She gave up her job to stay home with me and my siblings never went to the Ballet, Opera or a play due to cost. Wanted to travel to Australia, but due to their age and illnesses never made it. She had always wanted a ranch in Texas, but that wasn’t what my father wanted. Now don’t get me wrong, I had the most loving, caring, attentive father the world has ever know, but after learning what my Mother had given up and what seems to me never reached her dreams. It made me take another look at my life. I asked my younger partner to move in; I traveled to Italy twice with girlfriends. My partner didn’t want to go or spend the money. With mother in mind I went with out him. I have also gone to the Yucatan, Belize, Honduras, and Jamaica mon. Gone back to school and loved it. I started a girls group that we get together once a month and do things from a weekend on Mt Hood, to the Coast. Ware our tiaras to a Disney movie and out to a wonderful dinner together. Jewelry making class to ceramics. My partner does not want children, but we have had my teenage grand daughter move in. This has been an interesting change. Good or bad, it’s a change that we made. I regret not leaving a bad situation when I should have; I regret not going back to school sooner. I regret not getting my children into a safe environment at an early age. Again I have found myself comfortable, but unemployed. I must make a change into a different line of work and hope that change will be good. Forgive the babbling my dear, I guess the point I should close with is check in your heart of hearts before making or not making a change. Will you regret not making the change or making it? It’s hard, weigh all the factors then jump in with both feet and go for what ever change you decide on and don’t look back. I hear your heart ache. I hate to admit but, I have never been one for change unless it was forced upon me. I have gone from being a single gal to married with two children, to a widow, to having a younger man in my life and now a grand mother of 6, one of with lives with me.
I never wanted to married, but found myself pregnant at 19 and then you did get married. My first true force to change. After our first born was 3 months old, I found myself expecting yet again. I did have the support of my loving family, but they were moving back down south. I had NEVER been away from my family. A devastating change forced up on me. After our second child was born my husband decided we were moving to Oregon where his family lived. Yet again forced Change. I found myself in a beautiful state, but with no friends, family or support. My husband became abusive. I had asked a friend of my husband’s wife for help, but she didn’t want to get involved. My husband let it be known that if I were ever to leave him he would take our children and I would never find them again. I needed change! Change was desperate to me, but with no support, being young and scarred I stayed with the man. The next forced change was when we moved to a small town in Oregon for my husband’s job. Here I had begun to gather friends, some strength and independence of which he didn’t like. I’m embarrassed to say the police took my husband away one day after the neighbors heard me screaming as he sat on my chest beating my head against the floor. Like too many other woman, mothers, with my children begging me that “daddy feels band and won’t do it again” I allowed him into the home. I have to admit he wasn’t so physically abusive after that, but his emotional abuse didn’t stop. Finally making some changes for myself, I found myself working at a small gym gaining physical strength. Then taking a marshal art class, emotional strength. One evening my husband decided to smack me, and much to my surprise I hit him with a side kick. He was as shocked as I was, and demanded that I never hit him again. I demanded the same. WOW! That change was good and he never did hit me again although the emotional abuse was still there. He passing away a few years later due to a rafting accident which left me alone, bad or good it was an unexpected change. At this point I hade to make changes for myself. I left a job I loved with all my heart, but knew it would never go further. Left the small town had become comfortable with and hit the big town of Portland. I had met a much younger man, 12 years my Jr. We were off and on for years, until he moved to Portland as well.
After loosing both my parents within two month of each other, I started looking at my life to that of my Mothers. She gave up her job to stay home with me and my siblings never went to the Ballet, Opera or a play due to cost. Wanted to travel to Australia, but due to their age and illnesses never made it. She had always wanted a ranch in Texas, but that wasn’t what my father wanted. Now don’t get me wrong, I had the most loving, caring, attentive father the world has ever know, but after learning what my Mother had given up and what seems to me never reached her dreams. It made me take another look at my life. I asked my younger partner to move in; I traveled to Italy twice with girlfriends. My partner didn’t want to go or spend the money. With mother in mind I went with out him. I have also gone to the Yucatan, Belize, Honduras, and Jamaica mon. Gone back to school and loved it. I started a girls group that we get together once a month and do things from a weekend on Mt Hood, to the Coast. Ware our tiaras to a Disney movie and out to a wonderful dinner together. Jewelry making class to ceramics.
My partner does not want children, but we have had my teenage grand daughter move in. This has been an interesting change. Good or bad, it’s a change that we made.
I regret not leaving a bad situation when I should have; I regret not going back to school sooner. I regret not getting my children into a safe environment at an early age.
Again I have found myself comfortable, but unemployed. I must make a change into a different line of work and hope that change will be good.

Forgive the babbling my dear, I guess the point I should close with is check in your heart of hearts before making or not making a change. Will you regret not making the change or making it? It’s hard, weigh all the factors then jump in with both feet and go for what ever change you decide on and don’t look back.

]]> Comment on Three Questions by lifelessons4u http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/02/11/three-questions/#comment-14 lifelessons4u Thu, 16 Apr 2009 17:18:41 +0000 http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/02/11/three-questions/#comment-14 Good post! I'd like to share this quote with you. When Oprah was interviewing Elizabeth Lesser (author of "The Seeker's Guide" and "Broken Open") on her Soul Series this is what E. had to say about finding your passion. When she was in college she read Howard Thurman and he said, "Don't worry what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and do that. Because what the world needs are people who have come alive. Don't worry about what's going on in the world right now. Ask what's going to make you come alive. Because unless you do something from your genuine passion itself, it's not going to help anyone anyway. There's nothing worse than an angry peace activist. It has to come from a calm inner place before it's going to affect anyone." Good post! I’d like to share this quote with you. When Oprah was interviewing Elizabeth Lesser (author of “The Seeker’s Guide” and “Broken Open”) on her Soul Series this is what E. had to say about finding your passion. When she was in college she read Howard Thurman and he said, “Don’t worry what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and do that. Because what the world needs are people who have come alive. Don’t worry about what’s going on in the world right now. Ask what’s going to make you come alive. Because unless you do something from your genuine passion itself, it’s not going to help anyone anyway. There’s nothing worse than an angry peace activist. It has to come from a calm inner place before it’s going to affect anyone.”

]]> Comment on Living life in chapters by lifelessons4u http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/04/16/living-life-in-chapters/#comment-13 lifelessons4u Thu, 16 Apr 2009 17:00:50 +0000 http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/04/16/living-life-in-chapters/#comment-13 Wow! Your post really got to me. I could feel your pain coming through your words. So sorry to hear about your mom. I'm sure the pain of loosing her must've been overwhelming. I hope that things are much better for you now, and that you've had some joy in your life since then. Take care, A. Wow! Your post really got to me. I could feel your pain coming through your words. So sorry to hear about your mom. I’m sure the pain of loosing her must’ve been overwhelming. I hope that things are much better for you now, and that you’ve had some joy in your life since then.
Take care, A.

]]> Comment on Where was this when I went back to work???? by Carol Fishman Cohen http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/04/14/where-was-this-when-i-went-back-to-work/#comment-12 Carol Fishman Cohen Tue, 14 Apr 2009 18:33:54 +0000 http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/04/14/where-was-this-when-i-went-back-to-work/#comment-12 If your readers want more info on returning to work after a career break they should check out career reentry strategy book Back on the Career Track: A Guide for Stay-at-Home Moms Who Want to Return to Work (Hachette/Grand Central) and the tools and resources on www.iRelaunch.com If your readers want more info on returning to work after a career break they should check out career reentry strategy book Back on the Career Track: A Guide for Stay-at-Home Moms Who Want to Return to Work (Hachette/Grand Central) and the tools and resources on http://www.iRelaunch.com

]]> Comment on Tony Robbin’s Tweet by tsteele999 http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/03/25/tony-robbins-tweet/#comment-9 tsteele999 Fri, 03 Apr 2009 21:07:24 +0000 http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/03/25/tony-robbins-tweet/#comment-9 I sometimes look back at where I made major decisions in my life and it is almost like you can see the path you were on diverging and looking back it is good to imagine where you could be if you had followed the other path. Not to be sad you took the path you did but more to help plan for the next time a decision needs to be made. That is what I think of when you say that change happens the second you make the decision... we just have to learn what we can from the moves we make. TS I sometimes look back at where I made major decisions in my life and it is almost like you can see the path you were on diverging and looking back it is good to imagine where you could be if you had followed the other path. Not to be sad you took the path you did but more to help plan for the next time a decision needs to be made. That is what I think of when you say that change happens the second you make the decision… we just have to learn what we can from the moves we make.

TS

]]> Comment on Making a Friend of Change – Even in Difficult Times – Can be Your Saving Grace. by modernwomaninc http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/01/06/making-a-friend-of-change-even-in-difficult-times-can-be-your-saving-grace/#comment-7 modernwomaninc Wed, 28 Jan 2009 21:15:47 +0000 http://modernwomaninc.wordpress.com/2009/01/06/making-a-friend-of-change-even-in-difficult-times-can-be-your-saving-grace/#comment-7 I am glad to hear that Cindy! Moving forward is a hard thing to do. But once you do it, imagine the possibilities. I am glad to hear that Cindy! Moving forward is a hard thing to do. But once you do it, imagine the possibilities.

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